Relationships are perhaps your most rewarding and yet most difficult part of your physical journey to understand. This is because you perceive in the 3rd dimension that you are separate beings, and because of the perception of being separate, you also have individual perceptions of all the experiences that you have chosen. You bring together quite versatile souls and in that versatility you attempt to unite into some form of a common bond.
At times it feels to us as though you are too critical of your relationships. It feels to us as though you do not understand what a relationship is about. That the expectation that you set in your interaction with other human beings is that somehow that human being is going to enhance you. If that does not happen, you feel you did not have a successful relationship.
Let us talk about relationships in general. Not only intimate relationships but relationships within family, among friends, within neighborhoods, in your work place, relationships within countries, and the relationships that dignitaries bring to each other. All of this becomes a very interesting collage of interaction of the human soul.
Because you have a desire within your soul to see your own inward perfection and your own inward beauty, you are on a constant search for something that will reflect that to you. Now, it is the ego that has that need for reflection. It is not a validation. It is a reflection. Because if somehow you can see a reflection of beauty, and joy and harmony in your surroundings then you believe this must be a possibility and that somehow, if you are in it, it will flow to you. I wish to say to you that there is nothing that can bring that possibility inward to you. And that you must first recognize that no one, no experience, no relationship can make you a complete human being. That has to come from within.
When you are involved in a relationship, let us suggest a few guidelines that you can have in this interaction that will help you better to perceive what is taking place. As we suggest some guidelines for you, we have to say to you they are merely guidelines. They are not the rules. They are merely guidelines.
1. As you enter into any relationship, enter that relationship without expectation.
You say, “Well, a relationship is some type of a commitment. A parent to a child. An employee to an employer. A friend to a friend. There is some type of commitment. I would like to say to you let us throw out the word ‘commitment’ for a moment because commitment sets up expectations which are there by your perception of what commitment means. If the relationship does not meet that expectation, then you feel that a sacred commitment also has not been met. You feel violated, as it were. Betrayed. Perhaps you ‘trusted’ and the trust was not honored.
If you enter into a relationship for the pure interaction of the moment, you can do that without expectation. You say, “That would be very difficult in our society to live that kind of a life. How could a parent have a child and not have a commitment to that child?” First of all there is a natural bond between a soul that produces another physical being and the soul within that physical being that each soul knows how to honor the relationship. If there is not expectations, the soul will find their way to the perfect interactions that both souls agreed upon. The child before it chose the parents. The parents before it chose to allow the child to come. It is not a need to set an expectation. It is very possible that that soul came through that particular parent not to live with that parent. Perhaps there is a journey here we do not understand. So if you can allow the two souls to find their way they will do so.
Love is a very natural component of who you are. It is only when the stress of expectation is upon you that you move into an energy that steps outside of the natural bond of love. Now, that stress may not come from within the relationship. The stress may come from outside of the relationship. But it is only when the stress appears that the natural bond of love that would guide with perfect soul interaction, becomes distorted.
So as you enter into a relationship, whatever that relationship is, enter it for the pure joy of interaction of the ‘now’ moment.
Now, what is likely to happen when you can do that? When you can do that chances are you will have a much richer, fulfilling, interactive relationship than one that places expectations upon each other. Because you are free to love. You are free to truly interact from a soul level and not from the mental level of expectation.
Souls know how to find their way around this planet. Many of you have been around here many, many times. This planet and relationships are not new to you. So the souls know exactly how to interweave into the action of relationship.
2. Realize that most of the time no two souls come together without design and purpose.
Enter a relationship without expectation. Enter the relationship for the joy of giving of your strength, your self, your understanding, you wisdom, and your love to the other. You merely are in that relationship to share who you are with another person. This applies to your relationship with animals but let us stay focused on humanity right now. You are there that you might share of yourself with that person. That person enters your life that they might share of themselves with you.
Now, I can promise you with a 90% plus promise, no two souls come together without design and purpose. You do not haphazardly run into each other on this planet. It is a very defined path that interacts and brings souls together. When you realize that you may:
A. You may be repeating a cycle from many lifetimes with another soul. B. You may have just had a real good time the last lifetime you were together and you decided to repeat it this lifetime. C. You may just be coming together for a very short period of time to complete something that needs to be completed, and it would never be intended that your entire life would be spent together. You have something to complete and whatever that may be, and please as I speak apply this to all relationships, again, family, friends, jobs, intimates, countries, it may only be a short time for completion.
Now, if you felt the obligation of commitment that that should always be. Sally should always be Sue’s friend. They went to school together, they grew up together, they dated brothers, they married, and they had children. Something happens now that Sally wants to go on her own adventure, and Sue is wounded. Well, if Sally feels and loves Sue and feels this wound, she may feel an obligation to stay with Sue and to nurture her through whatever the circumstances are even though she has outgrown, she has completed, and she is on her way to another adventure.
You should never obligate a soul to complete a relationship that is finished. When a relationship is finished, it has served its purpose. The important thing is how the relationship ends. It is extremely important for your own soul’s evolution that any relationship, be this work, be this intimacy, or family, that it is finished in a harmonious condition.
You may say, “Now wait a minute. That isn?t how I ended my relationship with _________ (you fill in the blank). Now, what do I do?”
You can still choose to enter that place within yourself you bless and release the other soul to their higher good. You are then completing a relationship harmoniously. When you do this, most likely I’ll tell you what will happen. You may not have seen the
other person for the last number of years, but chances are you will hear from them in some manner. You’ll get a phone call; you’ll get a letter; they’re knock on your door; someone will have seen them; they will have asked about you; something will happen that will give you the opportunity to interact and bring the completion about in love.
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